Keeping a Clear Head in Times of Conflict

As a child in the 60's, I was taught that life was like the Dick and Jane readers we used in school:
'See Dick. See Jane. See Dick and Jane. See Spot. See Spot run. Run Spot run!'
That was it.
No crisis. No conflict. No turmoil.
So when real life hit and things weren't so simple I thought perhaps I'd done something wrong.
Where were Dick and Jane when I needed them?

It's a big deal when something less than perfect happens to us. It throws us for a loop since conflict and decision-making don't often go together.
We question what happened, what we did, what he did, what they did.
First we are convinced the world is out to get us.
We feel attacked and victimized.
We want everyone to sympathize and hold a rally and stage a tea party to defend our rights.

One thing of note, however: the conflict still has to be dealt with.
Sure, we can stick our heads in the sand and pretend the situation didn't happen.
Unfortunately, we have to come up for air some time.
And when we do the big ugly lump of conflict/crisis will still be sitting there waiting...

Soooo....

That's when all your beliefs come into play.
Are you in charge of your life or is God?
If YOU are, I wish you well.
Except the pages upon which your abilities are written would look more like a pamphlet than a novel. More like a Dick and Jane reader. There are many things you know, but there are probably way more things about life and coping that you DON'T know.

When I'm in trouble or confused and hurt I want to consult an Expert for help. I want wisdom and strength. I mean after all, if I knew everything I probably wouldn't have gotten into trouble in the first place.
Well, maybe I would because I do seem to attract it.

Keeping a clear head when things are disintegrating around you does not require a skill set available to the lucky few. It's got a lot to do with being willing to let things happen without trying to repair the damage too soon; a willingness to be teachable and to allow God to speak to you and hold you protectively while you experience the chaos.

It's about putting your fear and anger on the shelf temporarily, knowing the truth of the situation will reveal itself in due time. You will not surely die, although you may feel like it.

I discuss this in much more detail in my book, "Lord, Shut Me Up!" available on Amazon.com. in the chapter on Patience.

Keep breathing.