Life After Parenting

As I mentioned in a previous blog entry, it's normal for parents to adapt to the interests of their children.

Believe me, I have no inherent interest in ska/punk music, nor is color guard a lifelong dream of mine.

Yet I have attended countless performances and soaked in endless conversations about the excitement and merit of each activity.

And I've enjoyed it tremendously.

But now I'm left with the challenge of discovering what it is I'd really like to do now that I'm my own person again.

Does this sound familiar to you?

I've actually had to begin jotting down ideas and possible hobbies or studies I'd like to pursue now that my full-time parenting job is on hiatus.
After spending some time to focus on my identity and accepting who I am, what I know, and what I'd still like to learn.

It's been a challenge.

I also discovered that all the limits I've put on myself as far as ministering to others have been lessened greatly; I don't have to rush home to pick up the kids or put them to bed. Many doors are opening to me.

One more thing.

I've noticed that I really like to get rid of stuff. Things I'd collected over the years thinking Kari or Ryan might want them (only to realize they never did and never would) are being purged. Crafts and hobbies that kept me busy at home are now being sent elsewhere.

This is cool except for the fact that most friends my age have the same mindset.

Maybe our joke should be to never leave your car door unlocked when your friends are house purging- you may end up with more dishes and figurines and books than you know what to do with! The Goodwill donation box and I are closely acquainted.

I suggest you begin making lists, trying new things and cleaning out the old things.
It will help you concentrate on your future interests.

But keep your car doors locked.